Endangered Species of India – Indian Girls
May 16, 2009 by Uttoran Sen
Filed under Indian Topics
Girls in India have always got the respect that they deserved, but they never got an equal status with boys. Girls have been considered inferior and always thought that they are meant for raising a family, look after kids, take care of the in-laws, cook food etc. Most parents, in India still don’t think that girls can take care of them in the future, and ‘most’ is a very under rated word here, almost all share the same mentality. This is the root cause of why so many girls are dying each day.
Here are a few reasons why so many parents in India choose to kill a girl child before they are even born:
- Over smart girls – Yeah, seriously look around; are the girls of today setting a good example? Wearing jeans, mini skirt, making boy friends, getting pregnant before marriage. Many from the western countries will feel what’s wrong with any of the above, apart from the pregnant thing, but hey this is India. If a father finds out that his unmarried daughter is pregnant, then he will kill her and commit suicide. So, you can now understand why not many parents would like to have an ultra modern girl. Having bad boy vs. having a bad girl. You can always kick out a boy who has turned bad, and forget everything, but the same can’t be done with your girl. If you kick out your girl, people around you will come and tell you what your girl is doing around, and enjoy every word of the conversation… I think you are getting the point here.
- Useless tv programs – Some Tv programs shows you how your life will become miserable if you have girls.
- Wrong mentality – Girls are responsibility, ‘Paraya dhan’ others property. So, you need to just raise them, waste your money on them and expect nothing in return, just find a good husband for her and get her married. But if you have a boy, you can have a future guaranteed. Interesting thoughts really, I mean, girls are like an investment where you put your entire life into it, and finally when it will be matured, you just need to pay a huge amount, ‘dowry’ and get rid of her. So its like pay, pay and pay, and finally pay more and get rid of her, this is not a very good investment idea.
- Traditions and customs – India has a lot of customs, which are against girls. We have got rid of many however on a practical level, dowry is very much functional.
However, some measures are already taken, now in India you cannot do a sonography and find out if you are expecting a girl or a boy. I still think for a threat so big, the steps that are taken are too little.
Indian girls always live life under with either brother,Daddy or husband. They have not yet got the rights to take any decision of their own. Need to spread awareness to the girls which are still suffering.
hi shila,
you are absolutely right, the conditions of girls in this modern india is not good at all, we need to carry out a lot of awareness campaigns to make their condition better.
It is sad that girls are still considered to be second class citizens and “property.” These are human beings we are talking about!
While I agree to most of the points that you have said but somewhere I feel it’s all about environment.. people chose to kill girl child because of poverty.. remember news where parents sell BOY child as well?
And, girls are over smart (exceptions) because of the richness.. In fact, they love doing those odd stuffs. Drugs, drinks and smoking is common to some people and there parents never really kill them or kick them out but they are accustomed to it because somewhere sometime the parents have enjoyed there teen life as well and want there child to have fun in a limited way!
So, all this depends on the environment and how parents think. Indian girls need not be old cultured, and they are certainly not (exceptions, again!). Life is all about doing what you never did, enjoying your life the way you want. Some prefer having sex before marriage, that’s their lifestyle. Nothing can be done, really.
I have NEVER seen anyone really killing a girl for no reason other than money and affordability issues. But, it’s rare.. out of millions!
Yep, poverty is the root of all problems, after all il-literacy is also coming out of poverty which is responsible for this problem in a big way. But this killing of girl child in india is a serious issue now, the girl to boy ratio is doing really high in favor of the boys, which can be really serious in the near future.
over smart girls never face problems themselves, and the fact that they live such a life style pretty much depends on parents who back their girls and does not care much, good for them, but think about other new parents who would watch a girl like that and would just wish and pray to god, not to give them a girl child…
i dont understand why we still prefer a male than a female.Girls have done equally better like boys.This is only what our thinking is.A girl must have equal rights that a boy has.
its hard to say, a girl will always marry and go to his inlaws house… while a boy is for ever… you need someone to look after you when you are old…
I don’t agree that girls are respected in India because if it were so there have not been so many cases of eve teasing, molestation, exploitation and rape. No man respects the woman except to an extent a few women in his own family only. Men have double standards for women; very protective about their own sisters, mothers, wives or daughters but the same men have sore thoughts for other women and do not hesitate to irk them.